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Thursday, May 03, 2007
Advice to a teenage girl
I've got a niece who is about to head into high school, and though I'm confident her parents have had the "boys and sex" conversation with her, I'm hoping to also anonymously provide some guidance on the realities of the dating world - and I'm confident the wit and experience of my blogging friends can help!
Here's what I got so far:
* There is a 1 in 200 chance that the boy you fall in love with in high school will be the one you marry
* A boy will really do or say anything to get sex between 15 and 18 (no need to tell her that this will continue most of the rest of his life)
* You will truly fall in love every 9 years of your life
* Every relationship has a few turning points: 1st time you kiss; 1st time you have sex; 10th time you have sex; 3 months into it; 3.9 years into it; 9 years
* What you think you need in a partner now will change every year of your life, or as long as you continue to learn about people and society and about yourself
* Between the ages of 20 and 30, you will be asked about the "first time you had sex". Think about that - want to be able to tell the truth or have to fabricate a lie?
* Most girls are curious about other girls - there's absolutely nothing wrong with that
* If you start to head down a path that doesn't feel comfortable, stop it at any point. I know this is difficult, but do it and be ok with it.
* It's difficult to gauge once you've started drinking/drugs, but they can absolutely affect the decisions you make when you're with a boy. Understand the consequences before you start.
* The boy you really like may be into "blondes" or "really skinny girls" or "big boobs" -- that means he's not interested in the right things. Don't change for anyone.
* This is a difficult one, as only experience can really guide you, but sometimes in life, no matter how much you like/love someone, they may just not be that into you, and you will not be able to change that no matter what you do.
* Date people really close to your age. Every year at this point in your life means a LOT more than it does later in life. Don't try to grow up too fast in the dating world. And yes, you are ALWAYS going to think you are more experienced and knowledgeable than your age.
New from friendly bloggers:
* BTC: If the boy has trouble making friends or has no friends, he'll have trouble making a relationship work. (Got to learn how to walk before one can run.)
* BTC: You can give too much in the name of love and have it not pay off, so don't lose yourself to become a martyr.
* BTC: There's a reason for the term boyFRIEND. Make sure he's like one/some of your friends. If your true friends hate him, heed the red flag.
* LNB: Don't run after a guy if he walks away from you.
That's all I got so far. I just know you all can help!
-SGB ¶ 7:33 AM 11 Comments
Here's what I got so far:
* There is a 1 in 200 chance that the boy you fall in love with in high school will be the one you marry
* A boy will really do or say anything to get sex between 15 and 18 (no need to tell her that this will continue most of the rest of his life)
* You will truly fall in love every 9 years of your life
* Every relationship has a few turning points: 1st time you kiss; 1st time you have sex; 10th time you have sex; 3 months into it; 3.9 years into it; 9 years
* What you think you need in a partner now will change every year of your life, or as long as you continue to learn about people and society and about yourself
* Between the ages of 20 and 30, you will be asked about the "first time you had sex". Think about that - want to be able to tell the truth or have to fabricate a lie?
* Most girls are curious about other girls - there's absolutely nothing wrong with that
* If you start to head down a path that doesn't feel comfortable, stop it at any point. I know this is difficult, but do it and be ok with it.
* It's difficult to gauge once you've started drinking/drugs, but they can absolutely affect the decisions you make when you're with a boy. Understand the consequences before you start.
* The boy you really like may be into "blondes" or "really skinny girls" or "big boobs" -- that means he's not interested in the right things. Don't change for anyone.
* This is a difficult one, as only experience can really guide you, but sometimes in life, no matter how much you like/love someone, they may just not be that into you, and you will not be able to change that no matter what you do.
* Date people really close to your age. Every year at this point in your life means a LOT more than it does later in life. Don't try to grow up too fast in the dating world. And yes, you are ALWAYS going to think you are more experienced and knowledgeable than your age.
New from friendly bloggers:
* BTC: If the boy has trouble making friends or has no friends, he'll have trouble making a relationship work. (Got to learn how to walk before one can run.)
* BTC: You can give too much in the name of love and have it not pay off, so don't lose yourself to become a martyr.
* BTC: There's a reason for the term boyFRIEND. Make sure he's like one/some of your friends. If your true friends hate him, heed the red flag.
* LNB: Don't run after a guy if he walks away from you.
That's all I got so far. I just know you all can help!
-SGB ¶ 7:33 AM 11 Comments
