Single Guy Blogging
A woman's guide to what men *REALLY* think about
Thursday, April 26, 2007
Swingers! The (not) movie...
Personally, I always thought that the concept of open relationships were things that one only sees in movies, or it's done by fairly desperate and unattractive people. I actually had quite an eye-opening experience last night. I was at a friend's house, who was having a birthday party for his wife, and after a few cocktails (and I think he had been smoking something also), he tells me that there was this amazingly attractive couple coming to the party that were real "swingers". Given my skepticism on the whole topic, I had a definite vision in my head, and boy was I wrong!
The couple that walked in could have been models. Both were absolutely beautiful, confident, incredibly nice, intelligent, and obviously friendly. Given my constant inquisitive nature, I tried desperately to get them to talk about their life, but couldn't get anything substantial out of them. They were very well dressed and kept mentioning that they were actually going to a "party" after their visit, and you have to figure they didn't get there until about 11. I ended up leaving around midnight and they were still there.
I talk to my friend this morning, and he gives me all sorts of juicy details about their life. It went something along these lines: She loves him. He loves her. They both love sex. She has sex with him, but also likes to have sex with girls. He likes to have sex with her, but also likes it when she has sex with him (if you catch my point). They like to go out and meet single girls or couples, and all have sex together. The rules: she can't have penetration sex with another man, and he can't have penetration sex with another woman. All else is fair game!
I would venture to guess that there are not many people out there who could handle such a relationship, but it sure seemed to work for them! :)
-SGB ¶ 2:18 PM 6 Comments
The couple that walked in could have been models. Both were absolutely beautiful, confident, incredibly nice, intelligent, and obviously friendly. Given my constant inquisitive nature, I tried desperately to get them to talk about their life, but couldn't get anything substantial out of them. They were very well dressed and kept mentioning that they were actually going to a "party" after their visit, and you have to figure they didn't get there until about 11. I ended up leaving around midnight and they were still there.
I talk to my friend this morning, and he gives me all sorts of juicy details about their life. It went something along these lines: She loves him. He loves her. They both love sex. She has sex with him, but also likes to have sex with girls. He likes to have sex with her, but also likes it when she has sex with him (if you catch my point). They like to go out and meet single girls or couples, and all have sex together. The rules: she can't have penetration sex with another man, and he can't have penetration sex with another woman. All else is fair game!
I would venture to guess that there are not many people out there who could handle such a relationship, but it sure seemed to work for them! :)
-SGB ¶ 2:18 PM 6 Comments
Thursday, April 19, 2007
Online dating profiles
Ok, I admit it. I've had my share of online dating in the past few years, and I think it's about time I give some advice on how we (men) look at the profiles, as well as some suggestions on how to make them more enticing if that is something you are interested in.
* Pictures: Make sure they have been taken within the past 6 months. Don't put up that perfect college pic if that's no longer what you look like. Also, if you want a reasonable response, close-ups of face, body parts, etc. do not count. Make sure they are full body pics!
* Names: DO NOT use a cheesy name - I had a blog post once that listed some of the funniest, craziest names I've ever heard, and they all sounded the same. Be clever, and come up with something memorable or unique that best represents who you are.
* Profiles: Again, one day you will probably meet someone you really like in real life. Don't embellish too much, or flat out lie about what you like and don't like. It will be discovered eventually!
* General information: Women, I know you probably don't ever go through other women's profiles, but DO IT. Read what others in your area and age range say about themselves. Learn from your "competition". And be memorable. As a guy reading through these profiles, by #10 you start to realize that they all sound exactly the same!
* Likes/dislikes: This is going to be a very general statement, so please do not bite my head off for it. Most guys out there are looking for women who look, act, write, speak, and are proud to be very feminine. If you're not into things that guys are, say it, but phrase it in such a way that will present you as open to new experiences or just hanging out with a guy that loves something you absolutely hate.
* In conclusion: If you want an honest, funny, masculine guy, make it easier on yourself. Be honest. Be clever. Be unique. Be feminine. Have a great sense of humor. We should be enjoying these times of meeting people and dating! It's supposed to be fun, right? :)
-SGB ¶ 11:01 AM 4 Comments
* Pictures: Make sure they have been taken within the past 6 months. Don't put up that perfect college pic if that's no longer what you look like. Also, if you want a reasonable response, close-ups of face, body parts, etc. do not count. Make sure they are full body pics!
* Names: DO NOT use a cheesy name - I had a blog post once that listed some of the funniest, craziest names I've ever heard, and they all sounded the same. Be clever, and come up with something memorable or unique that best represents who you are.
* Profiles: Again, one day you will probably meet someone you really like in real life. Don't embellish too much, or flat out lie about what you like and don't like. It will be discovered eventually!
* General information: Women, I know you probably don't ever go through other women's profiles, but DO IT. Read what others in your area and age range say about themselves. Learn from your "competition". And be memorable. As a guy reading through these profiles, by #10 you start to realize that they all sound exactly the same!
* Likes/dislikes: This is going to be a very general statement, so please do not bite my head off for it. Most guys out there are looking for women who look, act, write, speak, and are proud to be very feminine. If you're not into things that guys are, say it, but phrase it in such a way that will present you as open to new experiences or just hanging out with a guy that loves something you absolutely hate.
* In conclusion: If you want an honest, funny, masculine guy, make it easier on yourself. Be honest. Be clever. Be unique. Be feminine. Have a great sense of humor. We should be enjoying these times of meeting people and dating! It's supposed to be fun, right? :)
-SGB ¶ 11:01 AM 4 Comments
Wednesday, April 11, 2007
Just not feeling it
After making a concoction with my leftovers for dinner last night, I decided to go on a nice long walk, and ended up at one of my favorite mexican restaurants. I like to go there sometimes and sip on some delicious margaritas, chat with the bartenders, watch a game, and just overall be by myself.
I ended up sitting at the bar next to these 3 girls and a guy (who was married to one of the girls), and they seemed to be having a (drunken) jolly time. One of the girls was obviously in flirty mode, and kept trying to get me to have some of their food. After having my dinner, I just wasn't into it - but after repeated nudged of pieces of food in my direction, I tried it, thanked them, and proceeded to watch the game. Now, I'm a big observer of body language and tone, and this poor girl was trying really hard to flirt - I'm talking the hair toss, the showing of the neck, the pulling shoulders back, the glances at me/the game/me -- pretty much everything in the book. After a few margaritas, I thanked them for sharing their food, and told them I was leaving. I got the "So, do you live nearby?" - yes, walking home. "So we'll see you here same time next week?" maybe, depends on who is playing. Pretty much not feeling it.
Looking back now, I really wish I was feeling it, as she was definitely cute, and it could have been fun to hang out and chat for a bit. FYI, that probably would have never happened if I was out looking to meet someone! ;)
-SGB ¶ 8:23 AM 9 Comments
I ended up sitting at the bar next to these 3 girls and a guy (who was married to one of the girls), and they seemed to be having a (drunken) jolly time. One of the girls was obviously in flirty mode, and kept trying to get me to have some of their food. After having my dinner, I just wasn't into it - but after repeated nudged of pieces of food in my direction, I tried it, thanked them, and proceeded to watch the game. Now, I'm a big observer of body language and tone, and this poor girl was trying really hard to flirt - I'm talking the hair toss, the showing of the neck, the pulling shoulders back, the glances at me/the game/me -- pretty much everything in the book. After a few margaritas, I thanked them for sharing their food, and told them I was leaving. I got the "So, do you live nearby?" - yes, walking home. "So we'll see you here same time next week?" maybe, depends on who is playing. Pretty much not feeling it.
Looking back now, I really wish I was feeling it, as she was definitely cute, and it could have been fun to hang out and chat for a bit. FYI, that probably would have never happened if I was out looking to meet someone! ;)
-SGB ¶ 8:23 AM 9 Comments
Tuesday, April 10, 2007
I am about to hurt my arm...
Ok, I got to tell you - the dinner I made on Sunday for my friends was an absolute success! There were 7 courses, lots of great conversation, perfect background music, people getting a good buzz from great wine, people feeding each other, going back for seconds and thirds, and overall an amazing day/night. The event started at 4:30 and people were still there after 11. Ok, arm hurts from patting self, will stop now. :)
-SGB ¶ 10:00 AM 6 Comments
-SGB ¶ 10:00 AM 6 Comments
Monday, April 02, 2007
Rich men & beautiful women
A buddy and I were having lunch a while back, and we were sitting next to this stunningly beautiful woman who never looked at anyone in the eye. She was there with some (probably) co-workers, and as she got up to leave, the whole room just paused to take in her presence.
So we got to thinking about this question:
* Can absolutely gorgeous women and incredibly rich men ever really know what true love is?
Think about it: these people have probably been gawked at, befriended, hit on, and have had all the priviledges handed to them their entire lives. They have probably not had the same struggles most of us have. They probably don't know what it's like to be lonely, not by choice but because you are not feeling/looking your best or at a transition in your life. People's description of them probably usually begins with "She is this beautiful woman..." or "He is the heir of...".
What do you all think? Is there hope for these people? :)
-SGB
BTW, the girl looked a little oblivious to her surroundings, so I looked at my buddy and said "Don't you feel bad for her?" -- we both simultaneously answered with a resounding "NO!" :) ¶ 10:40 AM 13 Comments
So we got to thinking about this question:
* Can absolutely gorgeous women and incredibly rich men ever really know what true love is?
Think about it: these people have probably been gawked at, befriended, hit on, and have had all the priviledges handed to them their entire lives. They have probably not had the same struggles most of us have. They probably don't know what it's like to be lonely, not by choice but because you are not feeling/looking your best or at a transition in your life. People's description of them probably usually begins with "She is this beautiful woman..." or "He is the heir of...".
What do you all think? Is there hope for these people? :)
-SGB
BTW, the girl looked a little oblivious to her surroundings, so I looked at my buddy and said "Don't you feel bad for her?" -- we both simultaneously answered with a resounding "NO!" :) ¶ 10:40 AM 13 Comments
